supporting you through your eating disorder and self harm

hi,i am new-hope your all well!
goth Q
I just joined this community.I have struggled with eating disorders for over 20 years and have been self harming since about 15 years an old timer i guess.

i just hope to find an open minded,supportive and kind hearted place where I can get support and help.I am trying to make friends so if anyone can relate to me,please friend me


distraction tips
When you are triggered the best thing to try and do is ground yourself by doing activities such as the ones on this list:

1. breathe slowly and deeply. In for 5 seconds. Hold for 5 seconds. Out for 5 seconds. and keep repeating it over and over.

2. Use your 5 senses. Smell 5 things where you are now. Taste 5 things. Hear 5 things. See 5 things. Touch 5 things. BUT if one of the senses is what triggered you don't use that sense, skip over it and use another one twice.

3. Call someone you trust, like a friend or your T

4. Write in a journal

5. Draw

6. Change your scenery. If you are outside go inside and visa versa.

7. Write poetry or a story

8. Read a book

9. Play video games

10. Write a letter to someone who hurt you. Then crumple it up and throw it away. Put all the thoughts down on paper as if you would show the person but tear it up and never show them. That is a way for you to get it out.

11. Go for a walk or jog. Be mindful, look at your surroundings and feel the sun, rain, snow, hot, cold.

12. Hold ice in your hand. The cold will snap you back to the present and wont leave any marks

13. Snap a rubber band against your wrist. Once again it will bring you back to the present.

14. Repeat phrases such as "I am safe now" "It's over" "It's just a memory"

15. If you have a pet like a dog or cat pet them, brush them, hug them. Pets hold unconditional love for their owners and are amazing at making people feel better.

Add your own to this list...

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Hello everyone and thank you so much for taking a look at this!

I'm twenty years old and, until this year started, I've been a pretty happy and relaxed girl. Now, after some silly relationship problems with both boyfriends and friends, I seem to be getting worse and worse! It started by waking up crying and falling asleep crying, then I thought I was getting better, until I found myself with a razor on my hand and cutting my face. I don't cry anymore, actually, though I know the sadness must be still here, or I wouldn't be doing such a stupid thing as harming myself! I just think... I'm not worth anything, and the only thing I can possibly do about that is keep cutting my cheek so deeply it will eventually scar horribly and - well, and then I wouldn't have to worry and question myself over and over again what's wrong with me.

Argh... This all sounds so stupid put like this... But even though I still think (and it scares me that I feel rational as I do so) that making myself disgustingly ugly for the rest of my life is the only solution, I do know I need help... So, anyone..?

And thank you so much to anyone who tries to help, I really do know I need to put things in perspective :)

for anyone who finds this site, i think it would only be polite to inform you of myself.
currently i am 14, soon to be 15, oh joy.

i suffer from both bulimia and anorexia, and am recovering from selfharm. i cant really remember when exactly my strange eating habbits arose, or why, but i was pretty damn young, below 9 or 8. same goes for self harm, although i didnt use razor blades until i was 12.

my family, well fake family know about my situation, and have been trying to force me to get help for the past year and a bit, but i physically cannot, im restrained inside my own body, i live and will die in the fleshy prison.
i was a member of a group similar to this, but they bloody grouped it with another one and are taking their time accepting me. i know how hard the first few steps are for getting help, so hopefully you can find this useful.

kath x


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